What if you didn’t ever use ‘what if?’ Simply put, since you can put that phrase in front of everything, why put it in front of anything? It no longer has any significance if its use is so universal that using it would imply that any potential scenario is possible. How could one possibly plan for everything? With this, understand that using ‘what if’ gives the same significance to considering all the potential risks or dangers that can occur in a day as to all the wonderful things that could happen as well. “What would happen if I get hit by a bus on the way to work?”, obtains the same value as, “what if I win the lottery today?” However, one is more pleasant to consider. Wouldn’t you rather think about what you would do with all the money you could win from the lottery instead of planning what to do if you had to stay in the hospital, or worse, after being hit by a bus? They hold the same value, but to someone with an anxious mind, it might appear as more of a likely possibility that the first could realistically happen. So, what do you do with that? Well, one way of looking at it is that what we nurture grows, and in this case, it’s the act of feeding the positivity in your life that can help change your perspective. Yes, anything can actually happen, but why not let that mean that you are considering all the good instead? It’s often that what we look for is what we find.
If you’re struggling with seeing the positive in your life, please call Specialized Therapy Associates (STA) at (201) 488-6678, so we can help open your eyes to the true beautiful way the world really works.